When I was 30 years old, I realized that there was more to life than the all-consuming pursuit of acquiring “things”. Often it takes a “wake-up” call for most of us to make serious changes in our lives. We typically go through life refusing to see, self-medicating or keeping so busy that we can’t think or feel. My “wake-up” call was the early death of my beloved father and becoming a divorced single mom.
I was married for 13 years and felt like I was going nowhere personally, professionally, spiritually and emotionally. I felt adrift in my marriage, and I didn’t have a profession I loved to fall back on to fill the void.
I wasn’t one of those people who always knew what they wanted to be. I had no idea what my purpose in life was. I had an inkling that I liked working with and teaching people so I got my first degree in sociology.
I tried to fill up the yawning, empty hole in my life with so many different things. I got my second degree in teaching and continued on to pursue extensive graduate work at Florida Atlantic University’s Department of Educational Leadership and Research Methodology.
I kept myself so busy, “unconscious”, so that I didn’t have to think about how miserable my life was. It got to a point where running away and avoiding reality was no longer an option. I could no longer numb my pain. Looking back, I’m tremendously grateful to a friend who suggested that I go to a transformational workshop where I ended up meeting a group of like-minded people, on a quest to better their lives. That was a pivotal moment in my life that defined the course that the next 25 years of my life would take.
I’m amazed when I look back and see where I started from and where I ended up. It’s incredible to see how all the parts came together to create the fulfilled life I now live. In a million, trillion years, I never could have never imagined my life turning out the way it did.
I am now remarried, to a wonderful man and together we had another son. The painful events of the past have definitely shaped and molded me into the person I am today. Did I enjoy the suffering while I was going through it? Heck no! But in hindsight I can see that it had a purpose. It revealed to me my life’s mission. It gave my life meaning and direction. Finally, what a great feeling!
I have come to realize that it’s the rare bird that can do this work alone. Most need support. I could never had gone through the many challenges that crossed my path without the numerous coaches, mentors and friends by my side. These people were there to intervene when I was traveling down the wrong path, when I was too blind to see.
I am now able to share my journey and help others make their lives better as a leadership educator, concierge life coach, spiritual mentor, inspirational speaker, and author. For the past 24 years, I have also been the student and teacher of the ancient, immutable, universal wisdom of: The Old Testament, Mussar (Jewish self-help commentaries) and the Kabbalah (the ancient universal wisdom that teaches you how to receive and manifest joy and fulfillment in all areas of your life). I use the term UNIVERSAL WISDOM to refer to the above sources.
I have created a program in which I fuse this ancient wisdom with my experience as a leadership educator using today’s language. I provide user friendly tools, for all of humanity to use and benefit from. Why? So that you too, can be a better person.
As a life coach, the most common concern my clients share with me is that they don’t have a clue as to what their life’s purpose is, nor what their next steps should be. This appears to be a universal and demoralizing problem. So why are you here? I can reveal to you that you are here to enjoy an incredible journey of awe-inspiring transformation and fulfillment - to earn it on your own and be the creator of your own life. You are destined to be full of joy and bliss. Endless, ongoing pain and suffering, with no resolution, was never supposed to play any part in your destiny.
Yes, life contains a series of never ending challenges - some easier and some harder than others. The good news is that there are tools you can use during difficult times that can help to shorten the challenge process and infuse it with mercy.
But you really have to want to do the work if you want to see any improvement. You have to know what motivates you... and if you don’t know what motivates you, I’ve always found the following suggestion beneficial. Just keep moving and doing, with the understanding that putting one foot in front of the other, eventually gets you where you need to go... to your next level of enlightenment. This type of “doing” is drastically different then keeping busy as a way to remain numb.
This journey would be so much easier if we were living in a loving, caring and sharing world. But we are not. So, ask yourself: do you really want your life to be great? Do you really want the world to be great? Do you really want to leave a bright legacy for future generations?
If you’ve answered yes to any of the above, that means you must DO something about it. Living in a state of numb inertia is not going to fix the current negative, selfish and “taking-focused” state of affairs. Yes, you have to run away from natural disasters (hurricanes, floods, wild fires, earthquakes, etc.), but if more people were focused on bettering themselves, one would hope that peace would reign and we wouldn’t have to run away from human created chaos, like school shootings and terrorist attacks too.
The UNIVERSAL WISDOM is also very clear that becoming a better person requires consistent effort. Did you know that at the end of your time here on this earth, you are going to be asked three questions when you stand in front of the “pearly gates”. One of these questions is: did you set a specific time aside each day to learn how to improve your life so that you can transform into the best version of yourself? (Babylonian Talmud, Shabbbat 31a)
It is my pleasure to help you reacquaint yourself with the UNIVERSAL WISDOM that teaches that you are here to create and receive everything that is good and fulfilling.
So, welcome and let’s get started!